Have you been asked to sign a prenup? If so, you are not alone. Prenups have become more commonplace and no longer reserved solely for the extremely wealthy or famous celebs. Unlike earlier generations, many couples now enter into marriage having already establishing themselves financially.
Both men and women alike are more likely to acquire assets prior to marriage. They have worked hard to acquire what they have and are concerned about their financial status should the marriage dissolve. For them, legal counsel and even family members quite often advise a prenup. Prenups are also common among those who have children from a previous marriage.
Having a prenuptial agreement can speak well to our logical minds. They can make a lot of sense especially to those who have experienced an ugly divorce either first-hand or through someone close to them. However, with all the practicality and logic that a prenup has to offer, it does not bode well when held up against emotions and matters of the heart. It can bring to the surface a wide range of contradicting thoughts and emotions. It can cause one to question just how much their future spouse trusts them. It can also make a person wonder if their significant other is entering into the marriage fully committed. However, the proposal of a prenup does hold the potential of offering a deeper union.
The word prenup can conjure up thoughts of a cold, one-sided document pinning one party against the other. This does not have to be the case. Many couples create their prenups as a joint venture. They find that prenups written up under amicable conditions, has helped them to further develop their ability to keep the lines of communication open even when discussing finances. This is one of the most difficult challenges that faces married couples. A prenup can be a test, if you will, to determine how strongly you and your special someone can communicate with each other.
A prenup on the table has the potential to strengthen the relationship or cause its demise before the matrimonies even take place. By talking things through, we can learn more about our relationship with our partner. If talking about it is challenging, then you know the lines of communication need a little work. Working at strengthening your ability to communicate with each other now can benefit your relationship down the road.
The fact that prenups are in existence and that they have become commonplace is a great display of the importance of saying “I do”. Each couple’s situation is unique. No one can tell you what is right or wrong for you. Taking a step back and looking at the whole picture (this includes your partner’s perspectives) sets you up to make a decision that is right for you.