Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly. Whether it is done in a religious setting, a justice of the peace, or simply a legal signing at a town hall, marriage is the real thing. It is saying that the person standing next to you is truly the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. You will stand by them no matter what happens whether it is financial troubles, sickness, depression, etc. You are theirs and they are yours. That alone should be basis enough to not need a prenuptial agreement. If that commitment is not ready to be made, then marriage should not be on the table.
In a typical relationship, marriage is not something that is rushed into. There’s the courtship phase where a couple gets to know one another. They learn each other’s likes, dislikes, friends, and enjoyments. Then there’s the dating phase. They spend more time together and start to see some of the hidden characteristics that the average person would never witness such as little nuances that may be cute, annoying, or both. This phase is followed by the “getting serious” phase. They rely on each other for far more than just a fun time out. Trust is earned and the walls are broken down. Deepest secrets, fears, and worries are entrusted to one another. They support each other like no one else can. After this phase is achieved and both people are comfortable with it, then they are ready for marriage.
What’s Mine is Yours
After all this time of building a relationship, finances have hopefully been addressed. One person may be a high-earning businessperson, the other a minimum wage burger-flipper. Love is not about profession or how much is earned. If marriage is a serious consideration, earning power is no longer an issue. The same goes for property ownership. When vows are exchanged or papers are signed, it is now a joint union. It is saying that everything is ready to be owned equally whether it’s a house, a car, a debt, etc. If marriage is truly being considered, property should be divided right down the middle should something go wrong.
Divorce is far too high these days. A prenup forces a couple to consider who will receive what should their relationship fail, and that is no way to enter the happiest time of your life.