At the age of 21, most of my friends and relatives that I grew up with are pregnant or have kids already. Being married, I have had some pregnancy scares myself. When it comes down to it, I feel like watching my loved ones go through parenting is experience for me, as well. As an outsider, you see the good and the bad of parenting. My husband and I definitely do want to be parents one day, but first there are a few things we need to tackle.
I Enjoy My Freedom
As a teenager, the word freedom did not mean much in my life. My parents had me on a leash until my senior year. Now that I am 21, I get to enjoy all of the adult pleasures I couldn’t wait for growing up. Even though I’m not out hitting the bar every weekend, doesn’t mean that i don’t get excitement out of the fact that I can. I am not quite ready to give this state of mind up yet.
I’m Enjoying New Marriage Bliss
Okay, so there are tough times in my marriage, and great times as well. I feel that in the first couple of years of marriage, a couple should take the time to get situated, save money, and just enjoy each other’s company. When a child is brought into a home, life quickly becomes about the child. I enjoy my uninterrupted nights of Netflix and cuddling.
I’m Not Sure How To Parent
When I think about how I want my children to be raised, I’m scared out of my mind. I know that I want them to be able to make their own decisions about religion, politics, their bodies, etc, but how do I do this without basing them heavily off of my own opinions? I have not quite figured this out, and am not ready to jump into this.