With the founding of community came modern stereotypes on gender and family. Men are the traditional breadwinners and defenders of home and community and are expected to produce a family. Women are even less fortunate in their role as homemakers. Even in our liberal society, we are still judged by our primal features that allow for healthy offspring. This stereotype holds true despite the advances our global society has made. But coming from a Cajun family, whose goal was to maintain the bloodline, made opting out of the society hard for me.
I elected to not have kids for a plurality of reasons. The first reason is selfishness on my part. As a young, decent looking male in his early 20s, the pressure is on me to find a lady and have a family. But ultimately, I hold five job titles and do not want to be distracted nor have my finances wrecked. Financial stability holds many back from having children but that’s normally short term. To my end, I want complete control all the time so children just are not in the cards.
Second, given the increasingly chaotic times we live in today, I do not wish to produce children and give them a world that is worse than the one I inherited. In the United States, increasing lack of freedom, political polarity and the massive debt owed to foreign powers means that I do not want to have children only to make them suffer in the long run.
Lastly, I have a passion for wildlife and the habitats they occupy. As a hunter, I have spent many years watching wild animals in beautiful places. But not far outside paradise, I see strip malls and apartment buildings. It is a simple equation. The more children produced, the more building there will be at the expense of these wonderful places and animals. Not only do I wish for the next generation to be free, I also want them to experience the wonder and danger of the wild. Something that is already hard enough to do in my time.
In conclusion, my reasons for not conforming to society and having children are odd at best but after much thinking I believe the decision is right for me. In my own little way, I am out to help out society in the future by not participating in it now.