I came across an interesting article where a government personnel labelled Singaporean as “poor upbringing”. So let’s discuss what is “poor upbringing”.
When a person labels others as “poor upbringing”, this person is actually blaming others’ father and mother for not doing their jobs in teaching their children.
In Chinese culture, it is a taboo to bring father and mother into an argument, no matter how angry one is. The person who brings “father and mother” into a conversation is considered as “poor upbringing”.
Do you know what ” Kao Peh Kao Bu ” means? Literally, it means “crying father, crying mother”, and this phrase actually described the devastated crying scene when one’s parents died. It can only be used among EXTREMELY close buddies to mean “loud complain”. Please note that the reverse is NOT true, i.e. using that does not make one a buddy, got it? Any other relationships and situations of usage are considered as “poor upbringing”.
If one doesn’t know, just ask. If one can’t articulate well, don’t.
This advice is for their own good. Remember, there are only 2 ways people vote, either for the person they like or against the person they dislike, please don’t force the people to vote based on the second method.
Let’s look at returning trays. First of all, I would like to praise Singaporeans for a job well done, not for not returning the trays but for the ability to see whether an initiative is worth supporting.
Returning trays was promoted as a courtesy to the next person taking the seat, however, this had to be a collaborative effort. If it is really as a courtesy to the next person taking the seat, I would expect to see additional manpower added to clear and wipe the tables, but I don’t.
So how do you view a person who refused to play his part to put in more manpower, yet scold others’ parents for not teaching their kids manner, followed by blaming others for him failing his KPI? Well, I would label this person as “triply-poor-upbringing”.
By the way, would anyone die if the trays are not returned? No. So, why is that guy so angry? Because he missed his KPI?
What about dengue fever? Would anyone die of that? Yes. If so, shouldn’t he be more upset and angry about that? Shouldn’t he be spending more time on it?
Again, dengue fever is a collaborative effort. If NEA don’t play their part diligently, I don’t see how it can be reduced significantly. I recently reported a dengue breeding ground to NEA at the construction of the HDB automated parking, and it had since been cleared (plus point for that). But I can’t be doing others’ job all the time, I have my role to fulfil too.
NEA not only needs to educate their contractors, NEA must also ENSURE their contractors adhered to it. Since government wanted employers to ensure their maids behave well, I suppose it is not asking for the Moon for government agencies to ensure their contractors behave too, right?
While typing this paragraph, I can already see people preparing statistics on how NEA had done a good job in creating awareness and how interestingly the number can be presented as a great improvement. As you have not posted that statistics yet, please don’t, go green and save some network bandwidth for everyone. When the basis is wrong, nobody bothers about the details.
Remember: “Numbers don’t lie, but statistics does.” – BOSS
I have nothing against anybody or any parties. So please be humble and don’t force the people to vote based on the 2nd method. If you don’t know, ask. If you can’t articulate, don’t. Your silence will be much appreciated than those defamatory labellings.
I am fine to be labelled by the smart, but I felt deeply insulted when those who did are not. Stop blaming, stop labeling and stop doing things that add no value to the people, and everyone will be very grateful to you all for that.
My request: Stop the Labels – Respect the People.