Your wedding day is approaching and you get more nervous by the day. You are not sure if your uneasiness comes from the wedding planning or just because you are getting cold feet. The Merriam – Webster Dictionary defines cold feet as “apprehension or doubt strong enough to prevent a planned course of action.” If you get cold feet, you should feel concerned. Before going on with the wedding, follow these easy steps to find out the root of your unsettling:
Listen to your heart
Give your brain a break and listen to your heart. Stop trying to figure out everything on your own. Sometimes love is right there, in your heart. If you love that person, and he or she loves you, you have nothing to fear. However, if you are unsure of your commitment it is best to call it quits. Don’t be stuck in the mindset that you don’t want to disappoint everyone that worked hard for your wedding to happen. Your lifetime happiness is more important than one day of uncertainty.
Talk to your mom
Moms know best! If you experience cold feet on your wedding day, pull your mom aside and talk to her. Most mothers know how to give good advice to their children and they understand your feelings better than anyone else. Remember that they’ve been through it and will always be there for you. If your mom approves of the person you are about to marry, she already knows that you will be great for each other. If you can’t talk to your mom, talk to your grandma, aunt, a sibling or a best friend.
You have a busy day ahead of you, but if you have cold feet about the wedding you need to take some time out even if it’s for half an hour. Relax and think of why you are marrying this person. Remind yourself of the romantic dates, the day of the proposal, places you visited together, etc. Replace your fears with good thoughts and memories of the person you are about to marry. Of course, if your cold feet come from good reasons (like the person you are about to marry lied to you or they are hiding something from you) you should put your wedding on the back burner.
Talk to your spouse-to-be
If you have any unanswered questions about your future together, speak to your spouse to be. Did you decide to get married too soon? Should you wait longer? Should you both finish school first? Do you both agree on having children? Hopefully you didn’t wait until the wedding day to clarify some of these questions, but if you did, talking it over is the best thing to do. Be open minded and if you have to postpone the wedding, so be it.
Now relax and enjoy your day! Whether you decided to go on with the wedding or not, if you listen to your heart, more likely you will be doing the right thing.