“You know what getting married is? It’s agreeing to taking this person who right now is at the top of his form, full of hopes and ideas, feeling good, looking good, wildly interested in you because you’re the same way, and sticking by him while he slowly disintegrates. And he does the same for you. You’re his responsibility now and he’s yours. If no one else will take care of him, you will. If everyone else rejects you, he won’t. What do you think love is? Going to bed all the time?”- Jane Smiley
While reading, ‘A word a day’ that is emailed to me by wordsmith.org, I came across the above quotation, in a section of that email, referred to as, ‘thought of the day.’ I reread the words of Jane Smiley over and over. I was not familiar with this particular writer at the time. But her words were so profound to me. I had never looked at marriage the way Jane Smiley did.
I am not married, but I do hope to be one day.
During the million of times I have contemplated the idea of marriage, I have lost myself in the moment. I could only envision the freshness of love and happiness that accompanies the infancy of marriage. But it never really crossed my mind that as time progresses, we learn to interpret love and happiness differently.
So often, we think change is a bad thing and the beginning to the end of a relationship. But when it comes to marriage change can bring us eternal happiness through the power of love and commitment.