Really, what is family? Is it your genealogy or is it the people who raised you? Or the father or the mother who was always there for you? I have come to question that a lot in the last couple of weeks, so let’s delve into this a bit further: What is a family?
Weather you were raised in a single family home or an adoptive situation, with grandparents or aunts and uncles, each situation is different. Each question is different but at the same time the questions are the same. Why did they leave? Did I do something wrong? Why didn’t they want me?
For me I was blessed to have a wonderful father and grandparents that raised me. For that, I am eternally grateful. However, the same questions arose in me. I was raised without my birth mother and have just recently found her. I have come to learn that family to me is the ones who have always been there. Family includes very close friends who pick me up when I fall and wipe my tears when I cry. The word family evokes so many emotions from love to hate and everything in between.
Some people consider their closest friends to be more of a family to them than their own birth families. When you grow up without certain parts of your family, like a mother or a father you learn to accept the differences between your family and others, you learn to “fill In” the emptiness with other people that are important in your life. Such as a step parent or a grandparent and sometimes even your best friends parent becomes that “go to’ person in your life. In other cases you have your birth parents and they are their own kind of personal mess and you grow up not understanding why things are the way they are, you know that things are not right and you look at other families compared to your own and you wish for more than you have. You turn to them for support with your life; you want what it is they have as you grow up.
Once again family is many different things to each and every one of us, and it is what we make of it. You might not agree with everything they do or say and in that case you don’t have to have them in your day to day life. Keep close those that are most important in your life and let them help you and lift you up, allow yourself to be yourself and not falter when they try to bring you down. Stay close to those you consider “Family” and be happy with the ones you love. Always Remember things happen for a reason and God’s got this even when it feels like life is out of control. Family is what you make it so make it everything you wish it to be.