Both of my children were born by c-sections — one an emergency and the other a planned one. But I made mistakes after each one that I learned from the hard way. Here are a few tips that might save a new Mom some mistakes.
One of the main things that I had to remind myself is that I not only just had a baby, but I had also had major surgery. Therefore, I had to learn to be a Mom and recover from major surgery at the same time. I would forget this repeatedly and suffered trying to be super Mom.
- 1. I tried to be super Mom and Wife, which meant I tried to do everything take care of baby, house, cooking, laundry, etc. you get the picture.
- 2. I did not rest after all I just had a baby it did not enter my mind that I was also recovering from surgery. I could do this on my own. I became over tired and over ate to keep up my energy so that I could do it all. At least try to do it all.
- 3. Depression set in and I had postpartum blues but did not know it. I became discouraged and I just knew something was wrong with me that I could not do it all.
- 4. I kept my feelings hidden I thought I was not a good Mom and Wife and I became suicidal. Nevertheless, no one ever knew that I had been having those thoughts and feelings.
- 5. I put everyone and everything before myself and my health and my health suffered both physical and mentally.
Simple Ideas That Help
- 1. Rest when the baby is sleeping.
- 2. Rest when there is someone else to watch the baby.
- 3. Give yourself time to heal before taking on the world.
- 4. Get family and friends to help.
- 5. Remember Fathers can help too.
- 6. Relax with a book, take small walks, sit outside (weather permitting); a little TV will not make you a couch potato.
- 7. Do not forget to drink plenty of fluids if you are nursing.
- 8. People with understand if you do not show-up for a party or event after just having a C-section.
- 1. Have family or friends fix meals or a main dish and bring it when they come to visit the new baby.
- 2. Fix fast and easy meals not 7-course meals. No one will think less of you.
- 3. Pick a day when you have help and cook meals for several days and freeze them.
- 4. Salads, sandwiches, mac n cheese, breakfast foods are easy meals anytime.
- 5. If you must make a big meal put it in a crock-pot and let it cook all day or use a pressure cooker for fast meals.
- 6. Keep it simple but healthy.
- 1. Ask for a housekeeper for a month as a baby-shower gift.
- 2. Place if you do not have a dishwasher place the dirty dishes in the sink and soak them in the hottest water and soap. When the water is cool, enough to put your hands in the dishes will almost clean themselves. I still do this today.
- 3. Do not run back and forth between rooms. What I mean do everything in one room and then go on to the next room saving time and steps.
- 4. Look around a room and take everything that needs to be elsewhere at one time to the other room. Therefore, you are not making multiple trips. If you cannot carry everything, get a cloth shopping bag or basket.
- 5. Ask for help family and friends will be glad to help as well as your husband.
- 6. Remember that your house does not have to be sparkling clean and now that you have a baby, it will not be.
- 7. Older kids can help with putting things away, taking out trash, feeding animals to name a few. Just make sure that the task appointed them is age appropriate.
Then result of not taking care of yourself is that if you are not healthy you will not be able to take care of anyone or anything else! I did not and suffered for it.