So you’ve been married for a few years now, or maybe just in a long-term relationship, and are discovering that the fire isn’t burning as bright as when you were first together. This tends to happen to most, if not all couples, after they’ve put in the time. Well, if you feel like you need a little pick me up in your relationship, or are just in need to bring back that loving feeling, here are a few ideas for what you can do.
Give them flowers… for no reason. Everyone loves receiving flowers, whether they admit to it or not. There is something so naturally uplifting about a simple bouquet of flowers. And when you give it to your partner for no reason at all, it is a great reminder to them that although you two seem to be in a rut, you certainly still appreciate them, and want to see them happy no matter what the occasion. So drop by the grocery store on your way home from work next time, and grab that bouquet to make your partner’s day.
Clean the kitchen or bathroom without being asked. This one may seem like a given, or a weekly chore, but when you go out of your way to help clean the house without being asked, it speaks volumes. We tend to take each other for granted when common household chores are completed on their own. But when you voluntarily help in making your partner’s life a little easier at home every once in awhile, without being asked, your thoughtfulness will definitely be appreciated.
Buy them something they like, not something they need. When you are out doing some shopping for yourself, always think of your partner too. If you see a cute shirt or a pair of socks they would like, why not get it and surprise them with it later? Again, this is a great reminder to your partner, that although you both may be busy with your everyday lives, you still have each other on your minds all day, even when you’re trying to find a new outfit for yourself.
And lastly, write a love note to remind them how you feel. Sometimes all we need is just plainly being told that we are still appreciated and loved even after all this time. By simply writing a small note expressing your love for your partner, and letting them find it on their own, you will be able to clearly express how you still feel for them, and let them know that you are constantly thinking about them. And at the end of the day, that’s all we all really want.
So try these methods, and hopefully you’ll be able to keep the fire burning or at least re-light it for years to come. Good luck!