Under a moonlit sky with stars dancing in chocolate brown eyes, I met the man I would one day marry. He needed a ride home and I had a car full of girls with one spot left just for him.
What a lucky guy!
For whatever crazy reason, two unlikely worlds collided, and that guy with the chocolate eyes began to hold my heart and show me love in a way I’d never known. We danced under summer skies and sang off key on golf courses late at night. We roller-bladed on college sidewalks, and rolled head-over-heels down leaf-strewn hills just for the fun of it. His love was intoxicating and left me breathlessly wanting more. The beginning of any dating relationship is always fun and filled with the sweet highs of infatuation, but unless you’re willing to invest some time into the relationship, you won’t be able to test and see if what you have found is the real thing. Spending time doing life together allows the benefit of watching your potential mate handle circumstances. Is he honorable? Does he treat his mom with respect? Is he angry or have bad manners?
My sweetheart and I dated for 13 months before he finally popped the question. Through the course of that year, the guy I’d met one night in the middle of nowhere had become my best friend. Because we had spent so much time getting to know each other, we had developed a foundation of trust for our marriage as well as a friendship that would sustain us when the bliss of married life had worn thin.
The sweet secret to maintaining those loving feelings in marriage is the comfort one finds in being truly known and loved in spite of it all. One benefit of taking time at the beginning of the relationship is that it sets the stage for being known to your core before you even say, “I do”.
I had a fairy tale proposal in the magical land of Disney World complete with rose petals, a glass slipper, and my prince charming down on one knee. My man knew my favorite flower, my favorite music, and he knew the words to say that would be honey to my soul because he took the time to study me.
If you’ve found the one your heart loves and your anticipating that big moment to finally say, “Yes!”, use this time of waiting to be a careful student of your sweetie. The benefits of taking your time now will allow for a richer, sweeter relationship later!