Many of us expect our days and our life to be different than they are. Many think that if that are good and do things “right” then they will reach their “happily ever after”. Many believe that if they are nice to others that they will be nice to them. Many of us in my age group and before grew up in a society where we are taught that others can control their feelings. Many spend their lives trying to control the feelings of others while at the same time putting fault on others for their own feelings.
If you think about it, by having expectations, YOU are giving your power of life away. You see, we each have a choice on how we view life and our expectations. No one person can make us feel angry, dejected, hurt or angry. It is our expectations that cause us to generate these feelings of hurt and of anger. I believe that the reason that we feel hurt or anger in our lives is that because life, other people or even God are not doing what we want or expect them to do.
If we owned the fact that we are making choices in life that causes us to give away power over our feelings and that our feelings are our responsibility, the less we may react out of a place of a victim and the more peace we may have about the events in our lives. For us to believe that nasty, unpleasant things should never happen to us is crazy and really takes away from our function. The reality of life is that stuff does happen. We must be resilient in our lives in the face of any and all adversity. However, what is this thing called resilience?
Well, it is our ability to function with adversity in a way that we come through any adversity unharmed and many times even better for the experience as well as facing the difficulties of life with patience and courage and refusing to ever give up. Resilience allows an individual or a group to rebound from all hardships, traumas and misfortunes that is found in life.
It is entrenched in a resolve of our spirit, a determination to embrace everything in life that makes our lives worth living, even in the face of extraordinary odds. You see, when we have a clear sense of purpose and identity, we are resilient because we are then able to hold fast to a vision of a better future.
The majority of our resilience comes from community-from the relationships that allow us to lean on each other for support when we need it.
Who gives you your resilience?