When my husband and I started off trying to conceive, it was incredibly exciting. After the first few months with no results, I began to research statistics online. Every statistic was concerning regarding the possibility of a fertility issue with either myself or my husband. Upon bringing this to my husband’s attention, we started to look at our options and what our next step would be.
With possible fertility issues staring you in the face, it can be scary to discuss your options, but also necessary. Set out a plan for how long and what type of fertility treatments you plan to try as a couple. Decide if you and your significant other are comfortable with donor sperm or donor egg, if that is the fertility problem. Another significant question to ask yourself is “Could adoption be an option for us?”. At this point, I decided to go to my gynecologist for answers. When he told me that he believed I had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and was not ovulating I was devastated. For the following weeks while tests were being done, I cried on a daily basis contemplating the fact that I may never have a child of my own. Every day I have attempted to make the situation better as best as I can and I have learned a few things to help along the way.
For those struggling with conception, remember to not blame yourself. Also, don’t focus too much on fertility (easier said than done… I know). Try to avoid television shows or locations revolving around children or pregnant women. Keep in mind that people with fertility issues can still get pregnant and there are many options to help with infertility. In addition, look into adoption as a back up plan (this actually helped me a lot). Personally, I think therapy can help tremendously as well. Do things to help you relax, such as yoga, because stressing does not help anything. Lastly, don’t let your relationship revolve around conception and fertility. So while you are waiting for your little miracle, focus on your relationship with your significant other.