Going on a trip together for the first time? Does your partner’s behavior cause you to doubt your own survival? Well, the good news is that if you’re going on vacation together then you’re on the same team, and your goal is to have the best stress free time you can. I’ve done a good deal of traveling in my live and I’d like to offer some tips on managing your vacation before and during the trip that will keep both of you happy and will have years of memories.
Agree on How To Plan
Are you a stickler for detail while your sweetheart is content to wander around while on vacation? Make things easy on both of you by deciding on how to approach your trip beforehand. It’s easier to compromise on travel philosophy before you get in the car. If one of you is a stickler and the other is a free spirit you could make intensive plans to fly out to Bermuda but then agree to just go with the flow and have no plans once you get there for instance. Maybe you think that you both have the same traveling style? Great, but style is a matter of degrees. Maybe you’re a planner but your partner is a much more detailed planner. Sit down and plan it out or agree not to before you step out that door.
You’re already a couple, your sweetie already wants to be on vacation with you, how much do you really need to impress him/her at this point? Guess what – you’re on vacation and it’s time to be the real you, not the person you want everyone to think you are. Let loose, relax, enjoy the new experience as a couple, there will be plenty of adventures to talk about as you get out of your own head and into your partner’s.
Paraphrase When It Gets Intense
Your first trip together may be the first time you get to know someone intensely, if so it is possible that conflict may arise – a great opportunity to become an expert in managing your significant other’s crises! Here’s the trick – don’t try to argue your way to a solution when the other person is having a problem, instead just try to understand the nature of the problem. Doing this often leads to resolution on its own. For example, let’s say that your partner suddenly starts yelling at you because they don’t like your toes. You can expect conflict to arise in your relationships over silly things. Instead of getting angry, paraphrase them. “So you are saying that you don’t like my fat toes because they remind you of something bad in your life?” Stay calm, just try to understand where your partner is coming from. Don’t ask any questions, but answer all questions you get with honesty. You will be able to use this technique to turn a big argument into a chance to better understand and bond with your partner.
Vacations are a wonderful chance to get to know someone, whether it’s your first time out together or a long sequence of great getaways. When you’ve got someone special your whole life can be a vacation, enjoy the ride!