Having siblings has brought both joy and pain in my life. I am 37 years old with a brother who is three years older than me. I also have a sister who is eight years younger than me. Being a middle child has been an interesting journey in my life – especially when I was a kid growing up. Here are the top five most important lessons I have learned from having siblings:
Top Five Important Lessons Learned from Having Siblings
5. Because of having siblings, I have learned that even when there are family feuds, when emergencies happen in the family, the feuds take a back seat. For example, when I was 18, my brother and I were at odds with each other. I ended up overdosing on drugs and was sent to the hospital and admitted for further evaluation. My brother pushed his dispute with me aside and visited me at the hospital.
4. Because of having siblings, I know what it is like to have someone in my corner when times are rough in my life. For example, I was having a rough patch in my marriage. I talked to my brother and asked if I could stay at his house for a while to get away from the problems for a moment – he agreed and helped me through the rough patch.
3. Because of having siblings, I have learned how to forgive instead of holding lifelong grudges. For example, growing up with my sister was no easy task. I could not wait to get away from her when I grew up. I finally moved out and spent a few years holding a grudge against her. Finally, I decided the grudge was not worth the heartache and I forgave my sister for the rough times she put me through. My sister forgave me for the rough times I put her through too.
2. Because of having siblings, I have a better understanding of what it is like to be tested beyond normal limits. For example, when I was growing up with my sister, she made it a point to make sure my day went bad; she accomplished her goal many times.
1. They are my siblings, no matter what happens between us. I hear about people disowning their family members, but that is scientifically impossible; blood dictates who your family is – not you!
My interpersonal relationship with others has been mixed because of the turbulent times I had while growing up with my siblings. On one hand, I don’t have a hard time meeting new people because I am used to having people in my life. On the other hand, it is hard for me to engage in deep person conversations with people because I don’t want people to use my flaws against me like my siblings do.
Because of being influenced by my siblings, I have incorporated a very important philosophy for parenting my children. I teach my children that even though they don’t get along with each other most of the time, they are still connected by blood and they need to learn to get along.