Between the ages of 1 and 3, you may start to notice your child becoming increasingly frustrated. Their understanding of the world around them is maturing, yet their ability to complete tasks or manage situations themselves may be restricted. This is perfect combination for a temper tantrum. If a child is not able to verbally express themselves, they may become frustrated. A temper tantrum can range from a child whining, crying, kicking, screaming, hitting, biting or holding their breath. All of which can be stressful for the child and parent alike.
Find Out the Cause
To manage the situation, the best thing to do is to work out what has caused it. Apart from being frustrated, your child may be tired or hungry and in which case, the solution of a nap or food is simple. Build routines into your day which provide familiarity and timings to your child. They may want your time and attention or be jealous of another child. In these cases, there are strategies you can implement to manage or completely avoid these situations.
Sometimes your child just wants your constant attention. A child may opt for negative attention over no attention at all. Do not reward tantrums! If you have said no, stick to it! Rewarding your child for good behavior can help minimize tantrums when all the focus cannot be on them or when they cannot get their own way. Focusing your attention and praising your child when displaying positive behaviors will only encourage such behaviors.
Wait For It to Stop
There is no benefit in shouting back at your child and losing your temper. That will only escalate the situation. Wait for your child to calm down. Then, holding your child close to you, explain to them they are always loved but you do not approve of their behavior. Have a conversation with your child to work out alternative ways to express their feelings.
Provide A Distraction
If you can see a temper tantrum building, provide a distraction. Give your child an activity to do, take them into a different room or even outdoors. Diffuse the situation before it gets to boiling point.
Giving your child some control over their environment can help to gain independence. Provide your child with options such as “Do you want water or juice?” or “Would you like to play a game or watch a DVD?” Reducing the lack of control your toddler may be feeling will help to lessen their frustrations.
Temper tantrums can leave everyone feeling stressed, annoyed and disgruntled. Avoidance of such incidents will help promote an encouraging and positive environment for all. These top five tips will help you achieve this!