It is only natural that your little ones would want to be close to you as much as they can. Children spend months in the womb, closely attached to their mothers, so it is normal to see attachment even a few years after birth. While attachment is normal, some children go a little above and beyond what their parent’s expect of them. This can be seen in children who refuse to sleep by themselves at night. Once they have fallen asleep, they awake in the middle of the night and crawl into bed with you. How can you help your child sleep on their own?
Give them a Head Start
Many parents like to co sleep with their children when they are young. I did this with all of my babies and must say that I enjoyed it and learned from each experience. After observing my three last children, when we had our fourth, I decided to co sleep as well as let her sleep on her own in a bassinet next to my bed. This way she would be used to sleeping without me and wouldn’t depend upon me so much to help her fall asleep. As she got older and it was time to make the bigger transition over from our room to her room, she was much easier than the other three because of this.
Don’t Give In – Put Them Back to Bed
When you are tired and have fallen into that deep sleep, the last thing you want to do is get up and put a child back to bed. You may have to get up several times, but someone is going to give in and surrender – you don’t want it to be you! While this can be exhausting and frustrating, it works. It helps the child to see that you are serious about them sleeping in their bed. When your little one comes in and crawl into your bed, the more he or she is allowed to do it, the more they will keep coming. It takes time and effort, but the results are a bed to yourself (especially if you have a partner) without interruption from your sleep.
Make Sure they are Comfortable
Sometimes children get up from their sleep because they are uncomfortable. Therefore, before bedtime you would want to make sure that their bedding is comfortable and free of anything that can disturb their sleep. Having a nice bath before bed can aid in a peaceful night as well as providing your child with his or her own special night light. Bedtime should be fun and inviting.
Raising children isn’t always easy. If we want results, we have to work at it and be consistent. That is the key to success, sticking to it and not giving up. You can do it!