I have seen many articles on “A Fathers Guide to Marrying my Daughter” or how a man should treat a woman. However, there are few guides on what to expect when marrying a great man. This is a guide from his mom.
Women today a great at giving advice on how to marry a great woman. This is not that article. This is a mom’s opinion on how to marry her great son. Of course, part of this article is biased by Mom. But it is a very true.
You see my son was raised with respect. Not only on how to give it, but also how to receive it as well. So if you want to marry him, you must not only respect him, but also respect yourself. A person who cannot respect themselves, cannot respect others.
Another way to marry my son is to have your own opinion, but understand and respect that he has an opinion too. It is okay to agree to disagree and still love each other. I’ve always taught my son it’s okay to not agree, but you don’t have to argue about it. Open communication is key.
The next item is to discuss what is wanted versus what is needed. He was raised to understand the difference. Everyone wants a shiny new car, but is it really needed? Once the two of you get to the stage that such things can be afforded then go for it. My son was raised on how to spend money well. Debt and material items will break up a marriage just as fast as infidelity.
My son was raised to listen to his mom. But now he’s grown. He understands what I say is simply another opinion and we don’t agree, but we do love and in the end, a good mom knows when to back out of a situation and let her grown son handle his business.
And most importantly, my son understands love is not demanded, it’s a gift given. He was raised to understand this gift. I have advised him, the first time he hears, “If you LOVE me, you would do it.” This is a manipulation technique that is used by people who demand love, not deserve it.
My son has a little sister. They tease and joke, but he and she both understand when the chips are down, family first and this value will spread to his one day wife. His sister respects herself and others as well.
So my dear girls it is time for me to get off my soapbox. To the young lady who marries my son is lucky, for now he is grown and has become a person who knows how to love and respect. I pray he finds a woman who understands the same values. So ladies, this is how to marry a good son, who will be a fabulous husband.