If you have a relative with dementia it can be very hard. Dementia can make your sweet intelligent relative you love, into a hardly recognizable and sometimes even slightly violent person that you love.
Dementia is a disease that several people get as they get older, May times it makes the person with it seem as if they no longer live in the same world, or that they no longer remember the last twenty to thirty years. They may call you by the wrong name or even not recognize you at all. This is common and you have to accept it. You must remember though that your presence is very much appreciated by them, and they love to be around you.
Your relative is still your relative. No matter how far they slip away. But there are some things you must come to terms with in order to keep everyone safe and happy as possible.
Patience is the most important thing you have to have in order to deal with someone with dementia. They may insist on calling you by a certain name that is not your own. Sometimes you can correct them and get them t recognize you, but you have to remember that sometimes you just can not change it, and by correcting them you will only make them feel frustrated. Unfortunately that frustration is not forgotten as easily as your name.
Dangerous things that you have lying around the house need to be put away. Knives should not be left out on counters, scissors should not be left out of their drawers, and other objects should be put away. Try to make your home safe for babies, but remember that your dementia relative has the ability to reach on top of counters. They might be OK to use them still, but you never know when they will think they have to carve a turkey and grab up one of the knives. Then they might wander around the house looking for the turkey, or forget it’s in their hand. This can be very dangerous, especially if there are footstools or some other thing that could trip them up.
If your relative has a bad case, or if they start becoming a danger, you may have to consider putting them in a home for the elderly. Homes for the elderly can be great or they can be horrible. You should do your research on the home before you put them in it. Some places are wonderful places to spend the rest of a life, but others can be a horrible hell from which there is no escape, so be careful to check and make sure what you are putting your relative into.