Want to expand the baby shower guest list to include the men? You may need to make some changes to your usual shower activities. When you decide to throw a co-ed shower for the expectant parents, you’ll need to consider the entire audience and how they might feel about different aspects of the party. Use these tips to make the shower enjoyable for both the men and the women.
Talk It Over
Before you send out co-ed shower invites, talk it over with the mom- and dad-to-be. You don’t want to make either of them uncomfortable. The expecting mother may want the day to be just her and the girls. Or the father-to-be might get nervous about being part of a traditionally female event.
You might also want to talk to other friends helping with the shower or who would be on the guest list. Make sure their respective spouses are willing to show up to the shower. You don’t want the expectant father to be the only one who shows up — unless he’s okay with being the only guy.
Make It Clear
Don’t leave the guests guessing. Make it clear on the invitations that men are also invited to the shower. You’ll increase the odds of winning over the guys if the invitations aren’t too cutesy or if they promise something that men will like — such as a barbecue. Even a simple choice of wording can make the differences. For example, call it a celebration or party instead of a shower.
Plan Guy-Friendly Entertainment
Cheesy shower games are typical for women-only affairs, but the men may not get too excited about all of the traditional games. You can plan a few if you’re feeling brave. But include other activities that men might enjoy more. One idea is to have everyone write down or share advice for the parents. Have the men share advice for the dad-to-be. If you have a BBQ or other casual event, you might not even need any organized activities. Just let everyone mingle and set aside some time to open gifts.
Dial It Down
Tulle and fluffy decorations might be acceptable for a traditional shower, but men are likely to shy away if they see lots of cutesy decorations at the shower. A luau theme is a good option that is gender neutral with plenty of decoration and activity options. Fewer froufrou decorations also saves on the shower budget.
Include Dad Gifts
If you want to make the dad-to-be feel more included, encourage guests to bring gifts just for him too. That might include funny books about parenting for dads, celebratory cigars, a baby carrier in a neutral color or coffee to get him through the late nights.
If you open the gifts right away, you can give the guys something to do. Have them put together all of the gear and toys the couple receives as part of the shower. They’ll feel like they’re doing something manly and the expecting parents get help preparing for the baby.