If you are in an abusive relationship — whether emotional, physically or both — know you deserve better. Don’t let anyone treat you with no respect and continue to stay. It can be hard to leave an abusive partner because you believe they will change, but just know they don’t. The situation only gets worse.
Make sure you tell someone
Make sure you tell a friend, a loved one, and a police about your situation if you are being physically abused. Telling someone can mean all the difference in the world for you. Not only will it relieve you of holding it all in. They may be able to help you financially, emotionally etc. Make sure whoever you confide doesn’t approach your abuser because they could anger them and make the problem worse. I had a friend in this situation, and when he found out she told someone, he retaliated against her and the person she told. So be careful and made sure they don’t know your escape plan for leaving, which brings me to my next point.
Have an escape plan
Make sure you come up with an escape plan for leaving. It’s best to leave when your abuser isn’t home. Leaving while they are around will usually cause problems for your departure. I’ve heard so many stories of people leaving while their ex partner was their, and they ended up seriously injured, or killed. This doesn’t happen always, just plan for the worst.
My friend stayed strong with the help of all her friends and family, and she didn’t go back to her abuser. Don’t believe them when they say they will change or it won’t happen again. Usually it does happen again and it is worse. Abusive situations usually escalate. Remember nothing will change if you continue to allow their behavior. You may still have feelings for the person you are with, but like Tina Turner said” What’s love got to do with it.” Easier said than done I know, but time truely does heal all wounds.
File a restraining order
Make sure you file a restraining order to keep your abuser away. Even though it’s just a piece of paper, If they do decide to stalk you by harassing or intimidating you, you can call the police and they will be arrested.