What is the one thing that men are not supposed to do? I think most people when asked that question would say show emotion.
My partner at the time came home with a nervous smile on her face, I can still remember the white skirt, and blue tank top she was wearing. She had a different aura about her. That was when she told me that she was pregnant.
It wasn’t anything we were planning. We could barely stand each other at times, to be honest. I just felt like it was going to be okay.
One week later, she started bleeding excessively. We knew exactly what was going on. No doctor was even needed to tell us that a miscarriage was in place.
#1 Write it all down
It’s going to be just as confusing for the guy. My situation was especially confusing since our relationships was not that strong. I quickly went from looking at engagement rings to a feeling of overwhelming relief. Take some time to work through all of it.
#2 Be caring and respectful for her
Just do everything you can to be there for her in the first few weeks especially after this happens. Go out of your way to let your partner know how supportive you are of her.
#3 Don’t be scared to tell the truth
The feeling of your arms wrapped tightly around your partner’s body as your in the beginning stages of a pregnancy confused the heck out of me. I had made another life that could be felt through one hug.
I was in a sporadic relationship and somehow was suddenly thinking about marrying this woman. If you don’t want to try again, you have to tell her right away. The consequences are much worse if you hide this.
#4 It’s nobody’s fault
I can remember feeling extremely guilty about many things after the miscarriage. I also felt a horrible sense of guilt that I didn’t want to try again. I just wasn’t ready for that. Don’t feel guilty if you realize this.