When a child becomes a teenager it means they are at that stage in which they are growing into adults. Conflicts always arise between parents and children during this stage. Reason being that the children consider themselves mature adults and wish to be treated as so while the parents feel like they still need to protect, guide and instill discipline in them.
It’s never easy parenting a teenager. There will always be the difference of opinion, thoughts and individuality. If you’re looking to understand your child better and find an easier way to get along with them, this is definitely the article for you.
1) Build and Maintain the Trust Between You
One thing most parents fail to recognize is, when a child is transitioning to adulthood, the use of demands, threats, constant watching or following them is not enough to keep them from getting into trouble or tell you the truth about what happens in their lives. The only way you can know your daughter or son better, is by them trusting you enough to let you in.
Advice him/her about the day to day life changes and the importance of making the right decisions and the consequences that come with not doing so. But at the same time show them that they can always come to you in-case of anything, give them a non-judgmental feel of sharing secrets with you or asking for advice on things like dating, physical changes, career focus etc. They need to know they can trust you and you’ll only be at peace with them if you know you can trust them too.
2) Give Them Space to Grow
He or she may not be your little baby anymore but is still the unique and precious bud you have nurtured and is blossoming to a beautiful flower. If she prefers wearing different clothing or wants to color her hair or any other minor changes that aren’t that big of a deal, talk to them find out why they really want to and let them if it means that much to them. It’s probably going to be harmless and short-lived, just a part of growing up. Focus on the big things like drugs, school, alcohol, sexual intercourse etc.
Don’t try to control every little thing they do. Let them slowly decide on the person they want to be.
3) Value Their Privacy
It’s normal to be curious about what your kid is doing and be concerned about their safety. That doesn’t mean invading their privacy for example searching their rooms, reading their texts and emails, checking on the phone calls they get etc If they find out that you do these things it makes it harder for them to trust you and it makes them feel like you still see them as young, naive and gullible which is what most teenagers cause a fuss about. Know where they are, who they’re with, if they’re safe, what time they’ll be home and so forth, leave the rest to growing up. If you feel like you can trust them you’ll never have a reason to torment yourself with such actions.
4) Implement the Rules and Values and Mention Your Expectations Earlier Enough
Its common but not always that most kids turn out how they where raised. If you teach them important values, implement certain rules and let them know of your expectations when they’re growing up, they’ll live by it because they got to learn it from the most important person in their lives.
5) Think of You When You Were a Teenager
Remember your days as a teenager? Think back and handle situations in a way that you feel is fair between the both of you. When teenagers go through adolescence they can easily turn from being mature to childish again. Don’t be too upset and personal when they do, it’s just a natural occurrence. Correct them and keep guiding them instead. They can never grow too old to hid your advice.