Since childhood we’re constantly told to “dream big,” “shoot for the stars,” and that “the sky’s the limit.” And from hard work, determination, and persistence we will someday attain our dream. But what happens when you hit your mid-thirties, and are still pursuing that dream? I mean you put in the time, and money, had a few credits here and there, but have never really attained that “dream” that you set forth for yourself as a child. I mean who put that crap in our heads as kids that it will all turn out the way we want as long as we keep dreaming? Seriously, who started that crap?
For some of us, that dream ends badly. Though the talent and drive may be there, so is the constant rejection, and overwhelming idea of not being good enough. On top of that, other deferring factors take hold: the addiction of comparison, and self-doubt consumes the dreamer. “If I looked like this, or if I had said that, or if I trained here or had been there, then I would have attained the dream I had always wanted.” Their lives become filled with “shoulda, woulda, and coulda’s,” and instead of moving forward, they don’t move at all. And quit… Well, I think that sucks. And something needs to change. So below, I’ve offered a few alternative ideas to tell our youth when it comes to attaining their dreams.
1. Give up. Not in the way you think. But give up your walls, your restraints, your ego, and most importantly, your desire to be rich and famous. Pursue this career because you can’t live without it, not because it would be cool to live with it.
2. Dream small. Yes it’s good to have large dreams, but smaller more realistic ones are more attainable and come faster. By doing this, you’ll be able to realize happiness more often too.
3. Shoot for the telephone wires, not the stars. Similarly to dreaming small, make things you want closer to reach.
4. And fall. Yes, fall. Allow yourself to hit rock bottom and be in places that most people would hate to be in. And unlike most people, have the guts to go there regardless of what the outcome would be.
By telling our youth these more realistic ideas, maybe they’ll spend more of their lives actually living their dreams, versus trying to sift through the crap they were made to believe.