The most important thing in any relationship is to be the kind of person that you want to be with. It’s simply unrealistic and unfair to expect great things from a partner, while being unwilling or unable to return those same great things. Most relationships fail because one or both of those in the relationship feel that there’s something better out there — that they’re being held back or limited in some way by the other.
Make Your Partner Happy
Focus on your partner’s happiness first. Treating your partner as you want to be treated will yield enormous benefits for your relationship. Working to make your partner happy goes much further than focusing on making yourself happy. Bringing out happiness and positivity is one the most important ways to maintain a lasting, loving relationship.
Don’t take relationships for granted. An important aspect of any healthy relationship is to never treat your significant other as though he or she is inferior, a burden, or unimportant. This kind of behavior will, more often than not, be reciprocated by the other party, and will ultimately create an atmosphere of hostility and resentment. If you want a relationship to fall apart, this is a surefire way to do it.
Be Your Best Self
The first place to start is with yourself. In order to attract the kind of relationship you want, you have to first make sure that you are the kind of person, that the person you want, will want to be with. Often times you may be doing something, or being someone, that just isn’t right for you.
Working to improve yourself applies as much to relationships, as it does to every other aspect of your life. If you want to be fit and in shape, you have to exercise and eat right. If you want to get your dream job, you have to study and take on responsibilities. In love and in life, you have to bring out the best in yourself to succeed.
Look at your past relationships, or lack of relationships, and ask questions – find out what’s missing or where you need to improve.
If you never seem to meet anyone, or simply don’t meet the kind of people you’re interested in, ask yourself where you could meet the kind of person you want to be with.
If you go out on dates, but nothing lasts, ask your previous dates, what’s turning them away.
If you’ve had an ideal partner, but something you did, or didn’t do, drove them away, ask them what it is that caused the relationship to fail.
Communicating with your partner, or a potential partner, is the key to understanding what you both want and need in a relationship – once you’ve mastered this, the rest is happily ever after.