No one enjoys a bad first date. I had one so excruciating a month ago that I’m still talking about it with my friends. Men, if you want to be someone a woman remembers for all the right reasons, here are some things you need to avoid.
1) Don’t ask her out the day of.
I honestly cannot tell you how much it annoys me when a guy thinks I’m blowing him off just because I tell him I’m busy. Sometimes when a woman says she’s busy, she really is busy. If she’s as attractive and cool as you found her to be, then there are other people who think the same. She might have other guys calling her. She probably has friends she loves to spend time with. And she definitely has her own interests that she’s pursuing. So if you want a piece of her time, ask her out early. Otherwise it may never happen.
2) Don’t talk about sex.
You probably want to have sex with her. She quite possibly wants to have sex with you. But that can change pretty quickly if she feels like that’s all you’re really looking for. If she wasn’t sure to begin with, you may have ruined your chances completely by making her feel uncomfortable. If she wants to bring it up, she will.
3) Don’t assume she’s okay with paying for her meal.
Unless the woman has asked you out and planned the evening, you should offer to pay for whatever activity you’ve invited her to. Even when a woman agrees to go Dutch or even offers to pay for her half, it doesn’t necessarily mean she truly wants to. She may be okay with it, but she’s just as likely testing you. When it comes time to pay, she’s paying attention to whether you’re going to treat her or not. A classy woman will at least offer to chip in, but the best course of action is to politely insist on treating her. If money is an issue for you and you don’t want to set a precedent for further dates, tell her she can get it “next time” or to buy you a drink “later.” This establishes that you don’t expect to pay for every date, but that you do expect to see her again!
Of course not every date works out. Sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there. While these tips may not guarantee a future date, they can certainly help set you on the right path for more.