By no means am I an Emily Post. I still get confused on what side to set the drinking glasses at for dinner time.
Yet as a bride to be I try to follow proper wedding etiquette; to the best of my ability. Weddings are very special occasions and I would like mine to be classy as possible. Below is a list of helpful information for the big day!
Guests: Let’s say that you have a cousin, “Marvin”. Marvin is one awesome guy and the life of the party! There is one small, tiny, problem with him and that is his longtime girlfriend. She is the complete opposite of her significant other and quite rude! You and your fiancé have no desire to have her at the wedding. My apologies but she needs to be invited. If a couple have been together for at least six months then it is proper manners to invite both individuals. If you must say something then pull your family member aside a few weeks before the wedding and, politely, voice your concerns.
Bridal Party: At the rehearsal dinner the Bride and Groom hand out gifts to each member of the bridal party. It is only fair that each present be equal in cost. The exception to this rule is in regards to the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. Think of these two as the ‘Captain’ of the team. It is okay that you spend a little more on them. However, it is important to remember that it is not the price of the gift but the thought that counts.
Invitations: Your wedding is on a Saturday at the end of July. Do not send your invites out a month in advance and expect people to RSVP two weeks prior to the occasion. Invites should be sent out six to eight weeks before the wedding, and the latest guests should plan to respond by is twenty one days before the event.
This next tip can be tricky. Do you invite the ones you work with and this really depends if you have a relationship with them outside of the job. If you see or talk to the person socially then they should be invited and if you do not then an invitation is not required.
Also, please be courteous of the people you hired for the wedding. It is custom that a dinner invitation be extended to the D.J, photographer, videographer, and officiant.
Food: This is not so much a rule as a very strong suggestion. I realize that you cannot work your menu around just a couple of people. However, there are many people who are vegetarians so, please, have at least one meatless option on your menu. Everyone needs to be able to eat so they have energy to dance the night away!
If the wedding party plans on taking an extended amount of time for pictures then make sure there are appetizers for the guests. Is there anything worse than having to wait around for over an hour – at a party – with nothing to snack on?
Pictures: It is your wedding and completely understandable that you may want to take many pictures. Weddings are a very expensive event and you should capture as many memories as possible, if you would like. Nevertheless please be mindful of any young children in the party. Try and get the pictures that involve your flower girls and/or ring bearers out of the way first. This holds especially true to summer weddings!
Tipping: Common courtesy suggests that you tip anyone who you hired for the wedding. It would be an appropriate task for one of the groomsmen to find and tip the necessary people.
I understand how stressful weddings can be so, please; use this guide to assist you with the planning process.