“It’s something that could never happen to me,” one might tell themselves. Teenagers just don’t seem to believe they could become a victim of dating abuse.
Unfortunately, the reality is that it’s more common than they think. Too common, in fact.
One in four teenagers say that they have endured some sort of abuse, whether it was physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual.
Dating abuse comes in all shapes and sizes. It could be something as simple as being overly possessive to something as dangerous as physical harm. Threatening, shouting, isolating, and becoming overly controlling or jealous are all examples of an unhealthy and/or harmful relationship.
Despite popular belief, guys are not the only assailants, just like girls are not the only victims. It’s almost as common for a girl to be the abuser in a relationship as it is for a guy to be the abuser.
When someone suffers domestic violence it can cause far more pain than the visible marks of bruises and scars. Depression, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, and isolation from friends and family all come with any type of abuse, especially if the abuser is someone whom the victim loves. The effects are often long-lasting and can continue even through adulthood.
It’s important for teens to know they are not alone and there are people and resources there to help them.
If there is anyone who is experiencing any kind of abuse, make sure to seek help from someone you trust. Even if you are not the victim you can help a friend in an unhealthy or abusive relationship by listening and not judging or blaming them.
The best advice for someone in this situation is to be strong, be heard, and know when to say no.
It’s not something to ignore and it’s definitely not something to let continue.
So, why let it?