Sometimes the most memorable parts of a wedding are those that do not go as planned. All you can do is wish for the best and hope that any mishaps will leave you in tears of laughter, and not of despair. I went to a relative’s wedding a few years ago, and the memory still makes me laugh out loud.
It was clear before the bride made it down the aisle that it was not going to be your average ceremony. When the flower girl reached the end of the aisle, she pulled her hoop skirt over her head and twirled around the aisle in her undies. Amused, the four-year-old ring bearer charged from the back of the aisle, tossed the ring to the floor, and the two children ran from the groomsmen in pursuit as the ceremony proceeded.
Afterward, the reception was to be held in the same room. There was confusion since the venue was far out of town, and did not have a lobby where guests could wait. This left guests to linger in the parking lot for over two hours. The allotted one hour had turned into two when the bride chose then to pick a fight with a brazen bridesmaid, address her sister’s alterations to the bridesmaid dress, and to “discuss the attitude” of her new hubby…yikes!
By the time the guests made it into the reception, their patience had worn thin. They were too hungry to care that the dinner at the “formal” wedding was a barbecue buffet. By the end of the dinner, the children looked like they had bathed in BBQ sauce, the guests were streaked with drippings, and the venue looked like the scene of a mass murder.
What did I learn from this debacle?
First off, make sure the ceremony is well rehearsed, especially if it will include very young children who might not understand their roles. Secondly, if you can’t have a cocktail hour, at least have a sitting area for guests or give out directions to a near-by park or lounge. When choosing catering options it would be a good idea to opt for foods that are easy to handle, won’t ruin expensive formal wear, and are easy for children and the elderly to manage. Also, if an issue arises with someone, do not address them when your guests can hear. Leave it until later and enjoy your special day.
Looking on the bright side, the wedding turned out to be an unforgettable experience, and I’m sure it gave the guests a great story to tell for many years to come. It is important to remember that creating a memorable experience on your wedding day is much too valuable to be disappointed by failed expectations.