I never planned to have children, and yet, I have four. You can ask nearly anyone who knew me well when I was young. They will tell you. I had planned to adopt.
“There are too many children in the world already who need mothers!” I would exclaim, in righteous indignation to anyone challenging my intended plans, “I will be THEIR mother…ALL OF THEM!” I meant it too, every syllable, and with every fiber of my being!
Things don’t always turn out as we plan them, though, do they? Apparently, I am somehow immune to birth control, or so it would seem. The doctors tried me on various types and strengths, but nothing ever worked.
When I was 22 I became pregnant with my first child, while taking the pill regularly. After I gave birth to her, at 23, the doctor “upped my dosage” to a much stronger variety of birth control. This made my already painfully heavy periods far worse. I’d had no such problems before taking birth control, but it did seem to be working, for a while at least.
Almost two years after having my first child, I became pregnant again, and no, I had not missed a single pill. Not only that, but my partner was using condoms as well! I still half jokingly call my son “Houdini” to this day!
Next, the doctors had me try “The Sponge”. The result of that was another son about three years later. When I left his father, just before I found out I was pregnant, I swore off men for awhile. It seemed the only real solution.
Three years after that, my doctor informed me of a new spermicide he was certain would work for me. It was right on time, for I’d met a man I could not resist! He loved my children as though they were his own. Within the year, of course, I was pregnant. It was another beautiful little girl like my first. Her daddy loved her til the day he died too!
So you see, some things are simply meant to be, no matter what we do to prevent them. Someone, somewhere had different plans for me. Obviously they knew my mind better than I did. They knew I’d love my children with all my heart, and still do all I could to love all the other children in the world too when I could. You will find them right here with me many days, from babies to young adults, all children are drawn to a nurturer when they are in need.
Source : Personal experience and years of parenting both my children, and other people’s children as well.