Dating your best friend is something many people think about. You spend tons of time with that person, you know all of their flaws, and you know what makes them happy. It may seem like it would be an easy relationship to get into. After all, who would love your best friend as much as you do? Who would treat them as good as you could? Those are questions you may be finding yourself asking. So what happens if you date your best friend?
Many times people decide to take their relationships to the next level, dating their closest friends. They never take the time to think about the outcome of this decision. There are two possible outcomes, one you will live happily ever after and everything will work out just fine, or you will end up breaking up and losing your best friend. You have to determine if it is worth the risk. If you decide it is worth the risk of losing your best friend in order to date them then there are a few other questions you should ask before you take the step.
First, do you or your friend have any kids? This is a very important question. When deciding if you are going to date anyone you have to know how they behave around children. That is if you have any. If you do not have children, does your friend? If they do is this something you can handle. If you both have children, you need to look at how many children there are. Is it too much for you to take on? Will the children cause stress in a relationship that they did not cause in the friendship?
Second, you should ask yourself if you and your friend have your lives together. Starting any type of relationship when one or both of the involved persons do not have their lives together is a receipt for disaster. When I say have your lives together, I mean both are working. One person should not be expected to support the other. Does your potential mate have a place of their own? Do you? Relationships that start when one partner has everything in order and the other one doesn’t never work. Both partners grow to resent each other. One for not working as hard as the other and the other looks at their partner as lazy and not focused.
Last, you should look at the persons ex’s, has your friend been married before? Are you able to accept their ex as a part of your life for the rest of your life? Have you been married before? Is your potential mate able to be civil with your ex? Also you should look at why the relationship ended. Was it because of battery? Or maybe your friend wouldn’t hold a job? It is possible that it was their spouses fault also, reasons such as cheating, or abuse. In the event on a cheating spouse it would be wise to look at why the spouse cheated. We all know cheating usually has nothing to do with sex so you may want to know what really was going on in the situation.
Dating your best friend can lead you to a life full of joy and happiness. It can also lead you to a lot of hurt and the loss of your best friend. Asking these three questions should help you set yourself on the right path to having a successful relationship with your best friend.