From a very young age, I found that I had a certain charm. I still cannot quite define it, but I felt born to be a player. Girls always loved me, and I loved them back. Many times my inability to turn down the opportunity for a new conquest got me in trouble. Although, I did not see it as a problem until recently. Being a player is not a victim-less crime, and it is nothing to brag about. While it is an ego boost the truth is that people get hurt, and you are the cause of that pain. Based on that I made the decision to retire my inner player, and this is how I went about it.
Unfortunately, you can only stop behaving badly when you are truly ready. Therefore, the first step to retiring your inner player is to indulge in it as long as you must. Pull as many women as you can, break hearts and brag about the triumph until it sickens you. At that point, you are becoming willing.
Being a player is a form of numbing emotion. Having casual affairs with multiple women will take your mind off of things. Willingness is where this dysfunction ends. When you become willing to feel what you feel without a buffer, you will stop using other people. Being willing not to toy with other’s emotions for your own gain is a powerful thing. It puts you back in the driver seat and allows you the freedom a clear conscience.
3. Let Go
The final nail in the coffin of the player is to let go. Let go of who you were and what you did. None of the things that you beat yourself up with are doing you any favors. They simply keep you stuck in a pattern of shame and poor judgement. Letting it go allows you to make progress in new areas of your life. Therefore, you can build something that you can take pride in. Although, you cannot do this before releasing.