So you are now officially an adult. You’ve made the mistakes, been in relationships, and have maintained a job that has been paying your bills for at least a few years now. And yet you seem like you’re still figuring it all out and aren’t the success you had once dreamed you would be. Your expectations may not be where you currently are in your life, but I’m here to tell you that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be. Don’t believe me? Then read on.
As children we are encouraged to dream big and become a success. Yet, not all of us feel like we’ve actually arrived there once we are in our 30s, 40s, and 50s for that matter. We begin to look back on our lives, and are either faced with disappointment, or regret because we are not where we envisioned we would be when we were young dreamers. Well, here is a harsh reality. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in life.
The strange thing is that we never give ourselves enough credit to take ownership of how we got to where we are, whether it be a “good” place or a “bad” place. Instead, we place judgments on ourselves and make excuses for the current state of our bank accounts, or the lack of love in our lives, or why we aren’t as “successful” as we always thought we would be. And that is what is actually determining your success in life.
By society’s standards, being wealthy, or having the biggest house may define success. But those are only superficial realities to what a great life is about. The main thing we tend to overlook is how truly happy we really are. In its most basic terms, how often we’ve smiled in our lives, or how much we’ve laughed so hard we could cry, are other definitions of a successful life. That moment you played with your niece, or cried at your friend’s wedding, or heard that joke from your Dad, or went shopping with your sister. Those are the moments that bring true happiness, and therefore, true success. These overlooked moments we have in our adult life that bring us the most joy, without judgment on ourselves, are the real elements to a successful life. And that is all it should be measured by.
So as we reflect on where we are in our adult lives, and start to judge ourselves on the life we once dreamed about when we were children, we should remind ourselves that we were only children when we made those dreams. And as adults, we are still entitled to make those dreams, but with a wiser and more realistic outlook.
No it’s not the car, or the money, or the fame that will bring a joyous life. It’s the happiness and acceptance we have in our current state in the smallest moments, that will allow us to say we have had, and continue to have a successful life.