We have all been out running errands or at a restaurant eating when we hear the shriek of a child…and it will not stop. We vow right then not let our child(ren) act that way and reassert the home training. The question is how do we prevent the proverbial disrespectful meltdowns.
1. Start early with boundaries and rules. Every child wants rules, whether he or she admits it. It allows comfort, pattern, and structure. By investing in consistency with the house rules,it makes the process of raising a respectful child seem more obtainable.
2. Praise your child(ren) for good behavior. I most definitely believe in catching a child doing “good.” This promotes the positive behavior and helps foster confidence in doing the right thing. After a while, the good behavior becomes a habit and the child(ren) will begin to practice this desired effort when away from parents.
3.Discipline your child(ren) when needed. I firmly believe in correctly a child. The method of how to discipline will obviously vary from house to house based on beliefs and ideals. Some homes use forms of grounding, such as taking away an item or specific electronic device. Other homes use physical punishment such as spankings. Regardless of which method is chosen, it needs to be fair and consistent and never done in anger. All children need to know that even in discipline they are loved.
4. Allow your child(ren) to have some freedom. Each child needs to be able to function independently of his or her parents. Children need to be able to practice the respectful behavior without parents bearing down or having a watchful eye upon them. After all, we can not be with our children all the time. When children are at church, school. or with friends, we as parent need to promote them to continue the respectful behavior.
5. Love your child. This may sound like a no-brainer. Love your child(ren) in a way that he or she can understand. Not merely by providing the essentials but by showing the respect and allowing free communication. Model these behaviors with them. Reciprocity goes a long way.