All I have ever wanted in my life was to be happy. I really didn’t care about anything else. I think most of us want to be happy. The question is why aren’t we already happy? Why is happiness a pursuit? Happiness is often referred to as a pursuit because we assume it is something that is out of our immediate grasp. Folks, happiness is not a destination! The ego in me would like to think that happiness is something that I have to obtain, something that is outside of me through special love relationships, job satisfaction, cars, clothes and the all-elusive million-dollar home that I would like to own one day. My ego would like me to believe that this is where my happiness is-it is out there, somewhere, beckoning me like a Hawaiian lady in a grass skirt on a sandy beach. Thankfully, it is a mirage. These are all things that even if I were to obtain, I would want to re-up or focus on the next-best thing to acquire–soon. Satisfaction and happiness is then only temporary. By focusing on the obtaining of any thing or person to make us happy, we are making that thing or person more important than ourselves. We are the most important thing and person in our lives. We are the ones who have to live with us, 24/7, 365 days a year. Instead of being off and running to reach goals that we think will bring us happiness, let’s focus on us-and the happiness we already have and can cultivate.
While I can appreciate new-age spirituality bringing us, The Secret and quantum physics to the forefront, what I don’t think is helpful is perpetuating the idea that we are lacking. That we are not good enough, and that what we have already is not able to bring us happiness. Do you realize that by most American standards you can never be just right? And who would want to be? We want to be as obnoxious as possible! We are living in excess–from the expensive shoes on our feet to the food that we eat. However, even by this standard, you can never be too much of something without being too little of something else. Just like the story of Goldilocks and the three bears, nothing is “just right.”
So if we don’t pursue happiness then how are we going to be happy? It is my theory that we are already happy and we just don’t know it a quarter, half or even all of the time. We are the obstacles to our own peace. Our minds and the fabled stories that we generate about ourselves, situations and other people keep us from discovering our own happiness. Sounds really sad and dismal doesn’t it? Hardly! Once we are able to know this little secret we can begin to remove such obstacles to peace. One way we do this is with conscious thinking-being present. Which means not hashing out last night’s argument with your partner in your head a million times before getting to work. Recall, as previously discussed, our past thoughts are all untrue to begin with because they are born from perception, so just release those thoughts with love, move on and be happy-NOW.