There has always been a small divide between teenagers and parents. Teens always feel they can handle problems on their own. Most of the time they don’t even want you to know there is a problem going on. Let’s get serious though; we know when our teens are having trouble. We were also teens once and have been through these same issues.
Being real with your teen and not being afraid to talk to them will keep those lines of communication open. Taking the time to talk to your teen is an important part of your parenting. They are waiting for you to teach them.
If you don’t talk to them, they will learn about things from their peers. They could be pressured into trying drugs, drinking or having sex. I feel it is important to start talking to your teens when they are younger so they will always come to you when there is a problem. When they become a teen, it will be easier for them to discuss those tough topics like sex with you. As they approach those teenage years, they become quite curious and questions begin to arise.
My teen comes to me since I am a very open and honest parent. When it comes to sex, I answer her questions and tell her about the consequences that could come from her actions. I have also told her about the safety precautions that need to be taken when engaging in this act. This has also been important when discussing drinking, trying drugs and smoking. If they are aware of the consequences before they have had a chance to try it, it may deter them from wanting it altogether.
We do sometimes have to give our teens a chance to show us how responsible they are. You would be surprised about how they usually want to do the right thing. It’s good for them to know that you love them and want the best for them. Taking the time to talk to them will really help you understand their point of view and they can understand yours. It is already tough transitioning into the teenage years and dealing with the social pressures that come with that. It shouldn’t be a challenge for your teen to come to you when they need you. Stay involved with your teenager’s life and show them that you really do understand.