Teenagers are in a very difficult position no matter what generation they are from. Each generation is faced with different sociological standards and peer pressures. Parents who set rules and guidelines for their children at a young age and enforce them can be ahead of the teenage parenting experience.
Assign Responsibilities and Consequences: A parent’s expectation of their children should remain constant and consistent. Of course, there are going to be times when a situation dictates a rule change, just try to keep those situations to a minimal. Some parental assistance may be necessary to complete responsibilities and that is okay. It creates a bonding experience for you to share in their learning. Responsible children grow are more likely to grow up with the understanding that everything has a deadline and what needs to be done should get done. Show your appreciation for jobs well done. This will build their self-esteem along the way.
Demand Respect – I know that sounds rough. It doesn’t have to come across rough with a few words of encouragement and support to show them how to respect and appreciate others. Children who don’t show respect for their parents are more likely to treat their spouse and children the same way. The circle continues until someone stands up and says enough. Respect shapes and defines a child well into adult hood. Teaching your children to show respect at home is a great character building tool. It allows them to make mistakes when the guidance and assistance is readily available to teach them otherwise. There is nothing worse than your child being called to come to the police station because he disrespected an officer or became unruly in the public.
Structure– Every child needs structure in their life. The parents and adults in the home act as role models for the children. There should be a pattern as to how and when things are done. Breakfast is at x time as is lunch and dinner. Identify what your child needs to have done before and after dinner is just as important to their development as showing respect is. Through structure, children become accustomed to schedules and or scheduling.
Nothing is guaranteed in life, there will always be exceptions. At times, you may beat your head upside a wall at the lack of progress you will. Be patient, it will come around. By applying some general parenting examples, you can save yourself a lot of headaches in the end.