Being a parent is not an easy job. There are many things that go along with being a parent and the list gets longer when one is doing it solo. What makes a good parent? It is not just the fact that a child has been born, but it is the sincere and defining act of accepting the responsibility of being available. There are many who have birthed children, but not many who are parents in the true sense of the word. It is that fact that has left many individuals, both male and female, raising children alone.
When a child is born, usually the family is very happy and there is much celebrating because a new child has been added to the family. If all goes well, there are two parents raising the child even if they are not living in the same household. In a perfect world, every child would be raised by his or her mother and father; however, this is not a perfect world. The fact is that most children are now being raised in a single parent household with one absentee parent. Often, it is the father who is missing from the household. Sometimes, these absentee parents are either willfully neglectful or have been incarcerated. In any case, they are absent from home.
The absentee parent has caused a crisis in our society. Children’s foundational beliefs and character traits are initially shaped by their parents. Boys glean leadership skills and other skills from their dads and girls learn how to be nurturing and other skills from their mothers. When either parent is missing from the home, there is a skill that the child is not learning. Children do excel more in two-parent homes. Therefore, the absentee parent is doing his or her children an injustice by choosing to disregard his or her parental duties.
Our society is an ever changing cocoon of choices. Divorce is high and long-term marriages are rare. Through divorce, I have had to raise my daughter alone. My daughter misses her dad everyday, but her dad has chosen to be absent from her life. In making that choice, another child has missed out on vital insights that can only be taught by her father. In conclusion, every child should be afforded the opportunity to learn from both parents and absentee parents have robbed their children by depriving them of their presence.