Every first time parent must prepare for many changes in their own life, including a shift of importance to the new little one in their life. It seems that no matter how prepared one can be, there is no way to tell exactly how you will react. In fact, after 10 months as a first time father, this has really started to intrigue me. I know many people with parents and in general children like me, so I have had a lot of experience with babies and kids. They seem to be naturally drawn to me, so I have always been excited to have my own. After my daughter Mya was born, I noticed that all the things that every other parent in the world talk about are so amazing, when it happens to you.
This seems so weird. Actually, why is that when a baby looks at you it reaches the deepest part of your being, when you see your child smile for the first time it almost makes you cry and when you are up at 4 in morning it still seems OK when you feel the warmth of a child in your arms. I suppose some would say that there is some sort of paternal/maternal instinct going on here and others may argue that it is simply the love you have acquired for your child. I think that both of these statements may be true. However, it still seems strange that the experience of parenting has to be one of the most common shared experiences out there and each little moment continues to blow my mind.
I can already tell that as my daughter grows up, I would give anything for her well being and would do anything to help her live a happy and healthy life. This in mind, I simply can’t understand how any human could do some of the things to children you hear about in the news and all the small things start to become scary when you hear about a kidnapping or other harm being done to children. These news stories are not new, it is just interesting how a little perspective changes everything.
The day a child is born, at least in my experience, was one of the most empowering and weak moments of my life. I don’t really know how to describe the feeling of knowing that you were part of bringing a new life into the world, but there is something that makes you feel strong and weak all at the same time. I would imagine this is another common experience for new parents, but wow! The fact that you know you and your partner are going to be the only ones in the world who can help or hurt this new helpless little baby really is a new emotion. The first day you are home with your baby and you and your partner just look at each other like “what now”, is another moment that I remember. Maybe, after your first, this is not a situation that is noteworthy, but with your first it definitely is.
Coming up on year, my daughter is happy and healthy after a low birth weight, jaundice issues and all the shots that she cried through. I have many hopes, dreams and fears for her future, but I am excited to go through all the scenarios I can come up with along her side and holding her hand. I hope other parents are reading and I look forward to your comments on my thoughts about parenting and the shared experiences that are completely unique to you and completely common to every other parent in the world.