Whether planned or not, the baby is on his or her way and if there are a million things going through your head that’s normal. That’s what happens when you care about someone that you are going to be responsible for raising. While some of these thoughts and ideas should merit no worry, others should probably be taken into consideration as you are preparing for the child’s birth day, such as the basics of caring for a baby, learning the child’s different behaviors and what they mean, and how to display your best characteristics for the child’s well being. As it is going to be a challenge, especially throughout the first 18 years of their life, you can still breath because a lot will come to you naturally.
By far the most important thing all dads should be mindful of is that the best way to practice good parenting is to just be there for them. This display of your affection will always help them no matter what their age. As far as the more detailed aspects of raising a child there really is no right or wrong way, only different ways. While you are deciding on how you are going to establish the bond between you and your son or daughter, here are a few of the more common guidelines that loving fathers have used for years.
1. Always keep in mind your child’s age. Whatever the situation may be, ask yourself what kinds of things would you consider essential at that age? What were you taught at that age from your parents or even others? What weren’t you taught that you feel would have helped you? If you feel like you could use a little assistance, do some research or attend parenting seminars. Talk to other fathers that seem like they have relatively fulfilling relationships with their kids.
2. Remember they are not you. Although it may sound silly this is a thought that is easily disregarded by even the best of dads. It can be easy to assume that they may be feeling a certain way just because their behavior seems to be the same as yours at that age when you were acting the same way. Does that make sense?
3. Children and adolescents are different and require their own separate guidance. As no two children are the same, they should be raised and disciplined accordingly, even if that means treating them differently than their siblings or peers. This does not mean that they wont have similarities in their learning and behavior with other children. Remember that unique is not the enemy of fair, and they can actually go hand in hand when it comes to parenting.
4. Establish authoritative/receptive (parent/child) grounds for the to of you to communicate on. This is one thing that you should never take for granted. If you have the child’s trust, thin that is something to be cherished and not exploited. Learning can a lot easier when there is trust between you, which brings us to the next guideline.
5. Be ready to learn with them as they grow. Children are very observant and will see how much you care about them if they see that not only are you a teacher, but a loving father that is interested in their development.
6. Have fun! Laughing and smiling is always healthy for any type of relationship. If you can just joke and play around with your child the two of you will create those wonderful memories that can stay with us forever!
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