“He is a rescue” is most often used statement to start description of a rescued dog, and is always said with great pride that follows a list of issues.
As a rescuer myself, I am very glad people did not buy from a breeder. But there is one disappointing detail that is very characteristic to these people. They don’t address and work out the fears or bad habits by clinging to “poor thing has been through so much”. Resulting in “feeding” unstable mindset of a dog. Pampering the victim-hood – allowing dog to rut in his paranoid world by dancing around it.
Victim mentality exists as long its been supported. A beggar on the street, will remain there as long there are others who feel sorry for him. He will be provided with food, shelter and money as he keeps on repeating his sad story. Same as we will feel sympathy with those who are experiencing tragic events. Difficulties are not eternal unless we make them that way. Those who choose to give into self-pitty during struggles become victims of their unwillingness to deal with situation. From the moment person gives up he nurtures a habit. It shuts down logical, positive and creative possibilities.
If there was a recreational rehab with highly trained and experienced canine psychologists every other dog would be a patient there. Alike every other person believes that he is a victim of “something”. When we know somebodies fears or dislikes, we mostly sympathize and tip-toe around it, instead of addressing the negative bondage.
It`s easier to avoid rather than deal with it.
There are way too many unhappy people and dogs. Well being is jeopardized by being uncomfortable for short period of time (transition period of healing and re-training mind) in comparison of a well lived life time!. Reality check : time will pass by anyways, so why not do something positively beneficial rather marinate in misery?
As we are guardians and protectors of our beloved furry friends,we should promote positive mental and physical health.
It is our duty to provide guidance.
We are their parents and friends, not prison guards, so act like one!