As the divorce rates are at all all time high, and more and more people are finding themselves without a partner, Dating site memberships has skyrocketed in the last few years. But are they a viable alternative for meeting someone, rather than at a bar or club or other social gathering.
Lets face it, If you don’t like the bar and club scene, it can be difficult to meet someone to date for friendship or to develop a relationship. You have to rely on friends to suggest their friends for you, or hope by chance you meet someone at the grocery store or church or even Walmart.
As someone who is single and decided to get into the dating scene, I joined several top premium dating sites, as well as a few free ones, and this article is about what I found out about them. Finding someone for a relationship is not as easy as it seems or as advertised.
The core problem with all the sites I am a member in, are that there is a lot of people from foreign countries posing as someone from the U.S. and living here, when actually they are not. They usually pretend to fall in love with you almost instantly, and within a few days of professing their love for you, start asking you to send them money for some problem or other they are having.
As I have researched forums and talked to some women, the sites are also full of nasty, filthy talking men who are only interested in nude photos and nasty talk and sex. Add in the weirdos and freaks on site and you have a real diverse group of crap to choose from.
From a man’s perspective, I have found that a lot of women there are not really looking for a relationship, but rather just for fun. A lot of women on the sites seem so jaded from past relationships, they have an impossible list of requirements for a man they want. Many seem to be there also for attention from men, collecting profile hits and messages, so they feel better about themselves. Some seem to have low self esteem and want attention to feel attractive and wanted by someone.
Almost all the real people that actually live close or local from you, seem afraid to reply to a message from you. I assume from all the scammers and nasty people that have contacted them. I’m not saying there aren’t nice people really interested in meeting someone, but you have a daunting task of sorting through all of the others, to find them. I think many just give up before they ever find a decent person to date.
If you are considering on line dating, I would suggest joining a few free sites first, because the pay sites are basically the same and have all the same pitfalls as the free ones. There are real people interesting in finding someone for a relationship, but they are not easily found or contacted. I know many people who have met on line and are in a happy fulfilling relationship.
Just be aware that it is not easily done, and will take some time to accomplish your goal.