When I was looking for love, I decided to try online dating. There really are not too many places to meet singles outside of bars and clubs in my area, and I wasn’t looking for someone who drinks or parties a lot to settle down with. For me, turning to an online dating site made sense. It gave me the opportunity to screen guys before I met them and allowed me to feel more comfortable when I did. However, the whole process was not without its bumps, and there were a lot of things that I learned.
Know Who You Are
I felt like the longer I spent on an online dating site, the more I was learning about myself. When you have to sum up who you are for a profile, you begin to think about your accomplishments and your priorities. When someone asks you a direct question about who you are, and you have time to think about your response, you really begin to analyze yourself and your life. It can be an eye opening experience.
For your own safety, let someone know where you are and the details of who you are with. If you’re concerned about a friend or family member being judgmental, try to find someone who is open-minded and supportive. In the end, you need to let someone know. In my case, I always let my mother know. If I didn’t call or text by a certain time, she would know something was amiss. It let my feel more comfortable about meeting people I met online.
Read Between the Lines
Those profile pictures sure do look handsome, but does the text below match up? Does that hunk of muscle and manliness go to the gym daily? Because if he didn’t list the gym as an interest, then chances are those pictures are not him. It’s easy to create a fake persona online and hope you don’t get caught. Beware of others trying to catfish you.
Trust Your Gut
You know that feeling that tells you that something isn’t right? Listen to that feeling. I met men who seemed nice enough but I ended up wasting my time or being completely unnerved by some of the things they said. In the end, I learned to trust my instincts when it came to deciding whether to meet a potential interest.
It Takes Time
Recently, a friend expressed her dismay she was still looking for the one . It made me reminisce about all of the guys I talked to. It can be frustrating and disheartening, especially when you spend so much time talking to one person and it ends up being a bust. It may also be that online dating isn’t for everything, but I’ve always figured that it’s worth the try and I don’t regret the experience. It just takes a lot of patience.