I was a single, divorced mom for about six years, and I was very happy that way. I wasn’t meeting any prospective dates in my life because I pretty much just went to the gym, work, and church, and there weren’t a lot of single guys my age at any of those places. A friend of mine hassled me for quite some time to try online dating before I finally created a profile. I ended up meeting my husband and getting married a year later, but I met a lot of total duds in the meantime.
I created a profile on a Christian dating site, because I wanted to meet someone who shared my values, and wasn’t just looking for a one-night fling. I was shocked to discover that many of the guys on the Christian dating site were anything but. When I crafted my profile I was pretty detailed with what I believed, what I was looking for, and that I wanted someone who would help strengthen my faith. That did not stop a slew of incident proposals, and even married men messaging me. There was one man who was older than my father who changed his age on his profile so he could message me. I was pretty discouraged with the whole process.
I did meet a few decent guys, and we talked and texted for a while, but it was clear that we didn’t “click” or we just lived too far away from each other. When I was about to delete my profile permanently, I happened across the profile of someone who didn’t live too far away from me. As a rule I didn’t contact guys first, but I decided to give it one last shot and message him. He responded, and as they say, the rest is history. We immediately clicked and he asked me out after our first date. We were engaged about five months later, and married about six months after that.
A few few tips I learned from my experience are:
Listen to your gut. When that nagging little voice is telling you that the person isn’t being honest, or that they are just a creep, listen! I found that almost every time I was right in my initial reaction to a person.
Honesty is the best policy. Be honest, and don’t settle for any less from a potential date. If they are willing to lie about their age, or living situation, who knows what else they are lying about!
Safety first. Going along with the two tips above, don’t forget that you are talking to strangers and that they could be dangerous. Be careful with the personal details you reveal, and if you do decide to meet, make sure that other people know and that you meet in public.
it is definitely possible to meet someone special online, but use some common sense and be prepared for anything.