I have children and I know all to well the financial hardships that come with the job on top of the regular everyday stress of just being a parent. It is hard enough to support ones own self never mind supporting a child who is completely dependent upon you. If you are a single parent these hardships become bigger and harder to deal with. When you are a single parent most times you don’t have any help or support which limits your outlets when you are under great strain.
I am no stranger to these hardships both financial and emotional but I however have support from my family. Yes although I am a man I need support from others I am not ashamed to admit when I am overwhelmed with responsibility and I need a little help because I feel as if I can’t breathe. I am an active involved parent which means I work and come home to help my children’s mother so that she can have a break. I have double the strain I have to be able to provide for them as well as do my parental hands on duties. Now it is hard for me and I have help and support so I can only imagine how hard it is for a single parent with nowhere or nobody to turn to for help.
One of my kids has a friend who’s from a single parent home. The parent not only is a single parent but they also have come under great financial strain. The parent just lost their sole source of income and due to the fact that they have no vehicle getting around is nearly impossible. This doesn’t help matters it only added to the stress and the already existing problems. It came to our attention that the person has become a danger to them selves as well as to the ones around them. Now normally we wouldn’t just go around volunteering to try to save everyone we can’t. We however could not turn a blind eye.
The parent randomly showed up at our house and began to ramble and express somethings of a very sensitive nature. The person was so distressed they asked that we take the child that they would relinquish their rights at first we thought they were just venting their frustrations .The next thing to come out of their mouth floored us. RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG! They said what they had to say and walked off as if they had simply said a run of the mill comment. Alarmed by what I had just heard I quickly gathered my children appearing as calm as I could and I occupied them and I made accommodations. My girlfriend walked to the persons home and picked up the child and left them whatever money she had on her person to help to alleviate some of the financial strains.
She said she basically went to their home and as soon as the person opened the door she quickly pushed herself in she yelled for the child. At first she didn’t get a response so she started walking around talking to the parent keeping them calm and scanning for the child and finally the child emerged. She said she could see the distress in the child’s face, She said told the child do me a favor buddy grab some stuff you like you are coming to stay with me for the whole weekend.
The parent put up some resistance but my girlfriend has a way about her I swear she could talk you out of just about anything insane you are about to do . She kept herself between the parent and the child the whole time until she could get the child out safely without distressing the parent any further. The parent was reluctant but my girlfriend somehow convinced them that this was best and that we only told the child for the weekend as to not distress them but that we would be keeping the child until we knew it was safe.
My child has now acquired a new roommate which happens to be one of his better friends. We have a spare room always have for such things unexpected guest. The thing is we don’t get many overnight guest so the room has been used for storage for years so we are emptying it out so that he can have a room and privacy as well. My house is now his safe haven. My children know if they are in danger come home running. If their friends are in danger come to our house. Regardless of me being home or not my home is still a safe haven.
We have a great alarm system with response time being about 5 minutes. We have dogs which are trained to protect my children. My children just give the command and the dogs will obey. I promise you that once that command is given nobody will make it to the children unless another command is given to make them stop or you hurt the dogs. My dogs don’t even need the command we have practiced enough times that they know what to look for so in the event that the children can’t give the command the dogs will defend them anyway. My home is a safe haven we have told the child when they go home and they ever don’t feel safe they can run to our house.