The most important lesson I have learned is that being a big brother was not easy for my own brother. As children, I often tried to tag along with him and his friends. I was the little sister that always wanted to be included in everything.
It seems now that I pestered him and his friends a lot. Not on purpose, but I almost always wanted to be there so I didn’t miss anything. Even when they were playing basketball in our driveway, I had to be included. I did learn eventually that not everything had to include me.
My brother did get angry sometimes and leave the house without me. He did yell at me sometimes. That would be lesson number two. It was not fun to be yelled at by my over six foot tall brother.
I don’t think I would have liked being an only child. There would be no one close to my age in the house to play all kinds of board games with or watch the Detroit Tigers baseball games with. I believe if I had been an only child that I would have missed out on so much.
You learn a lot when you have a big brother. To this day, even though we are both in our 50s, I still learn things about my brother. He cut himself off from the family for about a year and he regrets ever having done that. He knows he didn’t have to.
Lesson number three would be to leave your sibling alone if he or she likes a person and wants to date them. They take their side instead of yours. Especially if you can’t stand the person they want to date. I found this out the hard way. Give them their privacy. My brother and I almost always get along.
Lesson four would be to give your sibling a chance. Don’t jump to conclusions if they don’t call or write for a few days. They need their space just like you need yours.
Lesson five would be to love your sibling no matter what they do or have done. We are not perfect and we all make mistakes.
With that being said having a sibling is a wonderful thing. I have learned to be more patient, understanding and I know that I don’t have to be included in everything that goes on. That goes for my relationship with my husband or best friend or other people I am acquainted with.