We have come a long way since the days where parents chose mates for their children. As you will read later in this article, I met my husband in an online chat room.
But now on-line dating sites seem to be popping up all the time. If you watch any amount of television you will see several advertise such as e Harmony, Christian mingle, and the newest to start advertising, Our time.
As I researched for this article I searched for on-line dating sites and came up with several. I will list only 5 that were listed. Zoosk dot com, eHarmony dot com, Match dot com, Ourtime dot com, and Christian Mingle dot com. Each one has something different to entice you to join their sight to find that special, someone you have been looking for. And you can join for free. As with most of these sites, you fill out a questionnaire which can be seen by a lot of people. Oftentimes you will go through a lot of people trying to find that perfect one for you. But when you do it’s like nothing you could ever duplicate. Here is that web site.
For me I met my husband not through one of these but through an on- line chat room the following is my story.
In late summer of 2000 I was sitting in class my freshman year of my college career. I was taking legal courses. Before long it was obvious that my days would be filled with classes, papers, and researching. Having a social life and going out were things of the past. But I did have this need to connect to those who were not in the classes I was taking, so one day I wandered into an on-line chat room.
For me, it was the easiest and safest way of meeting new people and associating with them, without risking anything but my time, which might be better spent reading. One day I wandered into a “married but looking” room and began chatting with all sorts of people. Both men and women were engaged in conversations of various sorts from wanting to hook up to just talking about what is going on in their day. I was just in that room to kill some time.
While in that room, I encountered several men who wanted to spice up their marriages by adding a third. Some just needing to be with other people. I even received invites to webcams only to activate and view all of them in all their glory. I soon clicked out of that room as quickly as I entered and went back to studying.
Regardless of how hard I tried, I could not help but wonder what all the hype of trying to find and connect with potential mates was all about. So after studying for the day I reentered a different chat room and began chatting once again.
This time I found myself engaged in conversation with a man who seemed to be very powerful to say the least. That excited me because powerful men excited me which told me they were not boring.
Before long we were talking about everything from how we spent our days to what we wanted in mates. I wanted someone romantic, tender, and loving. He wanted someone who enjoyed a little pain with their pleasure and could be submissive as well. But mostly he wanted someone who could be a friend as well as a lover. Someone who he could hold an intelligent conversation with.
Because I didn’t recall if I had mentioned it previously, I told him I was a student and what I was studying for.
I have to admit the more he and I spoke, the more I was thankful I could terminate the chat session anytime I wanted. But this man, this stranger, intrigued me. Soon we were exchanging pictures to get a better idea of who we were talking to. When the conversation came around to one of us traveling to meet the other he became adamant that I finish my education. Finally, two years and one month away from graduation, we started talking about him sending for me. Soon I was on a bus and heading to where he lived in Kansas City.
While on the road when we stopped for breaks if there was at all a chance to call and let him know where we were and that I would still be arriving pretty much on time. Two long days later, we were arriving at the bus station in Kansas City Mo. As everyone else went past me on their way out as I worked to calm my nerves and prepare to meet the gentleman who I had only spoken with and seen through a web cam for two long years. We were married two years later.
As you can see my experience was a happy one where most may not be. So what I definitely recommend is get to know the person you connect with before you meet them – maybe not two years as in my case, but long enough to know if it will be worth meeting and getting to know them.
Other things to remember is to stay safe by meeting this person in a public place, where there are others. don’t give any personal information right off the bat. Some have even done background checks before meeting. While it is a good thing to find love, it is even better to stay safe while looking.