There are so many dating websites out there for the busy person, or for those who don’t go to the bar, or for those who like me work from home and never lay eyes on another adult. I began wondering if the people on these sites were for real when one of my friends told me he had met someone online and had fallen in love. I was skeptical, asked for all the info on the person he had and began doing research.
He told me how she was so sweet and agreed with all of his view points. How she was a wonderful Christian girl who didn’t party or drink. She was everything he was looking for, she was in another country but that he was certain she was the one. I began noticing my friend was always online, mailing this girl letters, or texting her. I had to know more about her.
I began simply by looking her up on Facebook. Didn’t look like the kind of girl he was describing so I asked him if he had looked at her Facebook, possible looked at the pictures of her out partying. I also asked why if she was such a good girl would she post pictures of herself half naked. My friend of course did not want to hear this so I gave up my search for information about the girl and began investigating how many people online really are who they say they are.
Statistics state that 9 out of 10 people lie about themselves online. They may say they have a job when they don’t, say they have a house when in reality they live at home with mom and dad. I wanted to put this to the test so I began by creating a profile on an online dating site. I was truthful with all of my information, except for the fact that I was purely doing research. My inbox filled up quickly. I began asking men questions and this is what I found out. First, most dating sites are simply people looking around for someone to sleep with, no matter what the profile says, they are out for sex and that is all. Most of the people have slept with several other on the website. Second, people try to make themselves sound like the person you want, trying to fool you into liking them. They do not show their true personality, only what they think you want. Finally I found most people on dating sites do not work! They are looking for someone to support them, when the first question they ask is what you do for a living, move on!
So with everything I learned during my short time on a dating website, I have determined, 90% of the people out there are not being themselves. Can you fall in love with someone online? I believe you can fall in love with the person they are pretending to be but once you meet them in person, you will be very disappointed, it is much harder to fake who you are in real life. There may be a few gems out there who are worth looking for but from what I could see, dating sites should be avoided if at all possible.