It can be difficult to deal with people in your life who exhibit the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Let’s take a journey inside the mind of those suffering from this disorder.
They Are Never Wrong
People with NPD, you find very quickly, are never wrong about anything. In their mind, they are always right. They expect people to support their opinions and views and have a hard time excepting alternative ideas that are not their own. It is best not to challenge their opinions openly as they will become agitated and want to fight. If you disagree with them and want to let them know, you will have to chose your wording carefully.
Because people with NPD can’t see their own faults so they default to blame-shitting. They have a hard time seeing that they, themselves can be the offender, but instead always see themselves as the offended party. They are quick to point the finger at other people to the point of alienating themselves from friends and family over the smallest disagreement. It won’t help to fight with someone who has NPD, nor will it be worth your time to try and make them see their faults. It is better to diffuse the situation by trying to compromise or let them know there has been a misunderstanding. Direct confrontation is never a good idea, but always apologizing and taking the blame as they would like isn’t the answer either because you are only adding to their illusions.
They Have An Inflated Sense Of Self
Friends and family with NPD have a characteristic inflated sense of their own self worth and importance. They see themselves as very intelligent people and often feel smarter than everyone else around them. It is common for them to belittle others for the very same faults, they themselves possess.
The Truth Of The Matter
Even though people with NPS think they are always right about their opinions and that they are never the one at fault in personal relationships and come off as thinking they are the most important person, it’s a fragile facade. Underneath they are actually hiding the fact that they have low self esteem, excessive vulnerability, and the lack of the ability to take any criticism. The live in fear that someone might discover the illusion they have built up around themselves.