If you are familiar with the Myers-Briggs personality profiles, you will know that we INFJ’s are rare — and not just a little bit different. We make up less than 2 percent of the population, but it’s a very important 2 percent. You will undoubtedly recognize someone you know or love as you read this.
How Do You Know If You Are an INFJ?
True INFJ’s are so incredibly rare that you have to literally be certified to call yourself one. The first time I was tested, the answers were so on the nose that they asked to test me again. The second test was the same questions in a different order, and I gave all the same answers. On the third test, I only got one answer different. The psychiatrist who tested me said he had never seen anyone score like that. I always knew I was very different, so it was nice to know why.
What Is an INFJ?
INFJ stands for Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging. We are called “The Protectors,” which suits me pretty well. Our lives are focused internally and we interact with everything primarily through intuition. External things are judged by how we feel about them and how they fit into our personal value system. We are the activists, the counselors, the teachers and the ministers. We are the writers, the musicians and the artists.
What Are the Characteristics of an INFJ?
We are highly intuitive and creative and tend to see things as they should or could be, not as they are. We love system and order. I am one of those “a place for everything and everything in its place” people, who gets upset when things aren’t where I expect them to be. When I worked in offices, the first thing I would always do was reorganize the file system.
On the other hand, we sometimes have contradictory aspects of this in our lives, such as the fact that some rooms in my home are always in a state of what I call “organized confusion.” It looks like a mess, but I know where everything is.
We INFJ’s just know things. We don’t know why or how, but we know things intuitively. We are the ones who dream of someone and then hear they died. We think of someone we haven’t talked to in ages, the phone rings and it is them. We can look at someone and tell if they are good or bad. This happens to everyone occasionally, but it happens to us on a regular basis.
What Are Some of the Less Desirable Characteristics?
We believe in things strongly, and because of this and our intuition, we always think we are right, and we usually are. We think in black and white — good and bad — right and wrong — legal or illegal. Grey areas are confusing to us. Friends used to call me the “law and order girl” because if something was illegal, I likely wouldn’t do it simply because it was against the law. I’ve mellowed on this point through the years.
Like most INFJ’s I am stubborn and sometimes intransigent. I will say you are right just to end the conflict, but I will never truly agree with you. I’m in a constant mode of trying to make myself better, to figure out what my purpose is and to fulfill it. I have a very hard time compromising my ideals, which leads to being judgmental. I am extremely independent, and hate accepting help I don’t feel I’m entitled to.
On the upside, I am a very caring and kind person most of the time. I tend to be nurturing and want to take care of people, see that they are not alone in their troubles or sorrows. I “adopt” people from places all over the world and from all walks of life and have a compulsive need to protect the downtrodden.
It’s not easy being an INFJ. We have a hard time making and keeping friends. We have a harder time working a conventional job. We tend to anger people because they think we are arrogant. In truth, we just want the world to be a better place for everyone.
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